Are you losing yourself to keep your relationship?
I help women overcome emotional struggles, reconnect with themselves, and break free from limiting relationship patterns.
LIVE WITH PURPOSE
BUILD HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
FIND YOUR TRUE SELF
IS THIS YOUR STORY?
You feel lost or disconnected from who you truly are.
You struggle with setting boundaries in your relationships.
You feel overwhelmed by the emotional toll of your relationships.
You’re questioning whether your relationship is healthy, or whether to leave.
You feel selfish and guilty when you put yourself and your happiness first.
You feel stressed and depressed.
You're stuck in a cycle of putting others’ needs before your own.
Your emotions make you feel too needy, too difficult, or too sensitive.
You long for deeper self-understanding and emotional freedom.
If this sounds familiar, you’re probably struggling with co-dependent relationship patterns. I can guide you through these challenges, helping you find clarity, freedom and peace in your life and your relationships.
Getting back to you.
The road from co-dependency is not about fixing you; it’s about becoming you.
An Inner Journey:
This inner work involves healing deep-seated emotional wounds. Using somatic therapy I guide you to explore your internal world helping you gain understanding and compassion for the younger parts of you that were unable to get their needs for safety, love and connection met.
A Holistic Approach:
Using a holistic approach that acknowledges the connection between the mind & body, I hold a safe and non-judgemental space to help you get to the root cause of issues allowing you to release emotions, heal from trauma, and let go of the underlying beliefs that are keeping you stuck in painful repetitive cycles.
Authentic Connection:
My goal is to focus on helping you reconnect back to you. Living in authentic connection with yourself is the cure for co-dependency. By understanding and embracing who you truly are, you can build stronger, healthier relationships and develop better coping strategies.
Many people carry unresolved emotional wounds that are reactivated in relationship with others. This reactivation is a regression to an earlier age when emotional patterns were learned in response to your needs not being met.
Somatic therapy recognises that the body carries the imprint of our life experiences; it allows us to access and heal the unresolved emotional pain that impacts our relationships, health and vitality.
I get it - I’ve been there too…
I know how it feels to lose yourself, especially in difficult relationships. In co-dependent relationships, your well-being becomes deeply entangled with your partners well-being. It often feels safer to focus on your partner's potential reactions rather than your own needs, especially during emotionally charged situations.
This makes it hard to understand and set boundaries, leaving you feeling unseen, unheard, resentful, and never truly able to be yourself.
Your’e not alone. For many decades I struggled with the same painful patterns, feeling stuck, stressed, disconnected, lonely and unsure how to break free. It was a sobering moment when I realised I didn’t know what my own needs or desires were anymore, and it dawned on me; I had lost myself.
It wasn't until I began my own healing journey—exploring the deeper origins of my emotional and relational struggles—that I found the way back to myself.
Now I’m here to guide and support you, so that you can deeply know, honour, and accept yourself for who you truly are; the cornerstone for healthy, connected relationships, and a fulfilling, peaceful and happy life.
I’ve faced the challenges of co-dependency too, and I learned that change began within me.
A "lost self" is the core of co-dependency.
- Darleen Lancer
The self is not something you have to go out and find. It is something you have to come back to.
- Richard Schwartz (Founder of Internal Family Systems - IFS)
Authenticity (noun);
Living in alignment with your true self—embracing your values, feelings, and needs. Understanding and accepting who you are at your core and showing up as that person in your relationships and life.
Working with me
Step 1 - Reach out
Take the first step by booking a free and friendly chat. This is a safe, non-judgemental space where we can discuss your current situation and explore your needs. There’s no obligation to continue if it doesn’t feel right. What’s most important is that we are a good fit.
Step 2 - Discover the root causes
In our sessions, we will delve deep into understanding the root causes of your current challenges. Using trauma-informed techniques - including Root Cause Therapy, Embodied processing and Parts Integration - grounded in safety, compassion and curiosity, we'll uncover the underlying issues that have been holding you back.
Step 3 - Move forward with confidence
Through our work together, you will begin to embrace and re-integrate all the parts of yourself, transforming your emotions and behaviours. We will address and dismantle old conditioning and limiting beliefs so that change happens naturally, allowing you to move forward with more clarity and confidence.
What I offer could be a fit for you if . . .
You’ve realised you need something more than just thinking, or talking about your problems. While it can be helpful to talk about what’s going on, you sense you need something that goes deeper to get to the root cause of the issue.
You wonder how your relationship today relates back to your family of origin and the wounds you experienced back then.
You want to make sense of what happened, or didn’t happen when you were young, so you can experience deep healing and feel at peace in your life.
You’re the kind of person who wants to get to know the parts of you that were made to feel unlovable and unworthy, so they can be truly seen, heard and understood, helping you feel whole again.
You’re tired of feeling triggered, stressed and emotionally unsafe, and are ready to learn how to regulate your nervous system for a calmer mind and body, enabling you to respond to situations in new and healthier ways.
You’re interested in learning how to contain and process your emotions in new and healthy ways rather than constantly reacting or suppressing them, so you can respond to situations in ways that make you feel proud of who you are becoming.
If you’re looking for someone to quickly and easily fix your problems for you, then I can be pretty sure that I’m not your person.
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Individual Tailored Sessions
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Trauma Informed Practice
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Practical Tools and Strategies
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Support Between Sessions
How I help
Nervous System Safety
We begin by cultivating safety within your body and nervous system. Trauma happens through a lack of safety, so it makes sense that healing can truly begin within a safe space.
Somatic Healing
In Somatic therapy we go deeper than traditional talk therapies, becoming consciously aware of the sensations, emotions, and stories the body has been holding, often since childhood.
Emotional Repair
This therapeutic framework enables you to effectively process and release negative behaviours, beliefs and patterns where they first started, resulting in emotional repair and lasting change.
About me…
Hi, I’m Dani.
I am a qualified Root Cause Therapist, Embodied Processing Practitioner, and am trained in trauma healing and Parts Integration. My passion for the emotional well-being of women in relationships stems from my own journey, spanning over 35 years, struggling within a co-dependent relationship.
From the age of 17 when we first met, I began the never-ending quest for self improvement in an attempt to fix our problems. It was a relief to me when I finally realised there was nothing wrong with me, and I can assure you, there’s nothing wrong with you either. The road from co-dependency is about becoming you, not fixing you.
What clients say…
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“It really has been a journey - and still is. Working with Dani brought effective focus, to the healing work of transforming the stories of pain, that had been shaping and framing my life, both inner and outer. I’m so grateful and excited to see what comes next”.
R. G. - Auckland, NZ
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Wow, wow, wow. What else can I say? Working with Dani has been amazingly, eye-poppingly enlightening and I am in awe of her skills at the end of all our sessions. Her insights and caring nature bring me back to work with her time after time. I look forward to a continuing relationship of RCT practitioner and client, as I cherish our sessions together. Please, if you are thinking of booking a session, DON’T hesitate! Do yourself a favour and book now.
L. B. - Queeensland, Australia
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“Just connecting with Dani and being in her space is healing. She holds such a safe and understanding container. Her wisdom and empathy is also out of this world! If you’re feeling lost or need some guidance and healing, she should be your go to.
M. H. - Melbourne, Australia
